I was at work the other day, eating lunch in the staff room with a couple of co-workers. One of them, Laura, was telling us about a breakthrough riding lesson she’d had the day before. Laura’s no novice when it comes to horses, she’s an accomplished rider as well as a trainer.
Whoa, wait up. Time out. This is an ART blog. What does a riding lesson have to do with painting?
EVERYTHING. Because as Laura was telling her story, talking about the AHA! moment that took her from one level of horsemanship to the next, I sat there with a great big lightbulb going off in my head. 300 watts of high intensity Arty Life brilliance!
KA-BOIiiiiiiiiiNG!!! (that’s supposed to sound like a cartoon spring)
So here’s what I remember about Laura’s lesson. She’s in an arena with a handful of other riders. At one end of the arena were horses being worked on the ground. Distraction. None of the horses being ridden wore bridles. No reins for the riders. Just a hank of mane to hang on to. Well hey, riding without a bridle is impressive but on a scale of 1-10 it’s not like it’s a 12 or anything. You ride with your body. Seat, legs, weight, balance. Reins are like a telephone line, another means of communicating with your horse. Communicating, not controlling. Because when it comes right down to it, the ponies got you beat hands down when it comes to size and strength.
The thing that took this lesson out the the ordinary was the riders weren’t giving direction to their horses. They were just along for the ride, so to speak, letting the horses move about however they pleased amid all the other distractions in the arena. The object being to ride through whatever craziness that might come up.
Which of course it did. Because horses are curious. And reactive. As in holy crap!!! I only came over here to say hello and now she’s going to kick me and so I spinnnnnn around until my brain flies out my ears and then I must runnnnnnnn for my life! And runnnnnnn some more! And keep runnnnnnning because I’m bat-shit crazy and I CAN!!!
When you’re on a horse that does the bat-shit crazy thing, your first inclination is to tighten up and fight against it. Try to control it with the size and strength you don’t have. The thought of broken bones is right there, front and center. Which just makes you tighter. And the situation more dangerous, deteriorating until it becomes one of those oh shit! situations.
But when Laura’s horse went into crazy-ass mode she remembered the object of the lesson and ahhhhhhhh...relaxed right into the fear. Consciously softened her body and rode it out. Not trying to control or direct anything, Just communicating to her horse with her body, a language he could understand, that there was nothing to be afraid of.
And. It. Worked.
AHA! Lightbulb moment here!!!
See where I’m going with this?
It’s just like riding the Wild Crazy ART PONY!
Wild Crazy ART PONY really, really wants you to relax. Because creativity can be a scary-ass thing. It can take you places you don’t want to go. Like scribbles. Or doodles. Or throwing paint, using those colors. Or making something NOT PERFECT.
Just perfectly INSPIRED. And perfectly AUTHENTIC.
But the natural inclination when faced with unbridled creativity is…to tighten up! To put on the brakes and say whooooa…look at that line, it’s the wrong color/shape/size. I need to paint over it, erase it, tear it up, start again. In other words…WORK IT TO DEATH.
Because we are afraid…it’s not good enough. It won’t sell. People will say unkind things.
And who am I to trust my inspiration?
Ohhhhhhhh…this is where I was going to say (in a kind, motherly fashion) You are an artist. Or writer. Dancer, teacher, whatever… I was going to be loving and gently remind you who you are.
But I’m not going to do that.
You see that wild art pony over there? Well, climb aboard. Go for a ride. And when things get crazy and you feel out of control and you want to tighten up and rein in that fabulous, spectacular creativity…ahhhhhhh…remember the language of the wild pony. Relax. Lean into it instead. Let it take you where it needs to go.
And then you can tell SHOW me who you REALLY are.
Before you go, I want to share a short video with you that is one of the most inspiring, joyful, AWESOME displays of trust and communication between woman and horse that I’ve ever seen. I’ve had it on my desktop for the longest time, watching it at least once a day because it makes me feel THAT good.
So go ahead and watch it. Think of the Wild ART PONY. And be inspired.
What a moving and inspirational post, Susan…. love it, and will try to lean more. Thanks for sharing the awesome video, too.
This one’s a post written from the heart, Marjie. And the video says it all to me! xo
grinning and grateful
for this:):):)
-Jennifer
: ) right back atcha, Jennifer!
Ha! “because I’m bat shit crazy and I cannnnn!”
That’s my motto! I always knew I was a horse reincarnated. I love your blog Suz!!
And my blog loves you, Ali, my little bat-shit crazy friend. Loves loves loves you!!!!
Perfect! Just what I needed to hear…..for myself and to pass on to my grandchildren. They are in the “It must be perfect” stage. I’ve been telling them that they are required…yep…required to fail at at least one thing a day. If you haven’t failed you haven’t, as you say, ridden the wild art pony. what freedom when you leave that what if I fail baggage behind! I shall now go and do the laundry with utter abandon and style.
Ride the wild laundry pony, Mitzi. Yee-Haw!
And yes, it’s SO important for kids to let go of being perfect. Because they’re not. And perfect is boring.
xo
Thanks, Susan – wow – goosebumps and tears at the end of that clip! Great whole-life attitude!
Know what you mean about the clip, Bonnie. It fills me up every time I watch it. : )
Oh, Susan, what a perfect metaphor! And that video — it brought tears to my eyes. Seeing the woman and horse in such sync, with so much trust — so incredibly beautiful and moving.
I endeavor to have that kind of relationship with my art-making! 🙂
Me too, Melissa. I want to ride that wild art pony with enough joy, trust and confidence that I don’t even need a helmet : )
Susan, this is a gorgeous post and so full of truth not only for art making but your-life-as-art making.
My heart soars with this video and I cry too. And now I cry for a new reason. Some months ago, looking for this video, I learned that this extraordinary horse in this video died unexpectedly.
It’s one more reminder to do and share our whole hearted creative work now. Because we never know about tomorrow.
PS: Stacy Westfall wrote a post “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” http://stacywestfallhorseblog.com/2012/02/09/dont-cry-because-it-is-over-smile-because-it-happened/
Mahala, yes I’m aware that Roxy is no longer with us in physical form. But her beautiful spirit continues to touch everyone who gets joy from watching the sheer brilliance of her interaction with Stacy in this video.
So very true. She inspires joy forever.